First of all, I am being absolutely honest when I tell you that the three best days of my life were the days that my three children were born. Not to sell short the day that I met my husband, or my wedding day... but there is just nothing that compares to that moment when the doctor first hands you your newborn child, and you finally get to meet that little someone that you've been thinking about night and day since you peed on the stick and saw it turn pink (or blue, or red, or into a plus sign, or whichever sign of "Yes ma'am, you're pregnant" you received from your test of choice).
It's important that I get that right out there, way up front, because I adore my children, and absolutely love being a mother. But I don't think there is a mother out there that won't agree that having children changes your life completely. Your life is suddenly clearly defined into two periods that I like to refer to as B.C. and A.D. -- Before Children and After Delivery. What this designation lacks in originality, it makes up for in absolute, spot-on, polorized accuracy: there is what there was "before", and there is what there is "after".
"Before", I slept in on weekends. I mean, until I was
not tired anymore. My body would actually have enough of lying there, doing nothing but resting and dreaming, and
rouse itself. This fascinates me now. I literally have no memory of what that's like.
"After", I wake up every morning, somewhere around o'dark-thirty, to the sound of my 1-year-old torturing his 3-year-old brother and roommate, by quietly uttering "duh" over and over again. Why this particular phrase? I think he simply enjoys the soft sound it makes... and I
know he enjoys how it makes his older brother absolutely crazy. It's not the babbling of the 1-year old that wakes me up, it is the top-of-the-lungs screaming of, "SSSSSSSSTOP IT!!!" from the 3-year old that actually gets me out of bed. I stumble to the boys' room to retrieve the baby from the wrath of his older brother, and with one more parting "DUH!", I take the little one downstairs while the 3-year-old whimpers in relief and collapses back on his pillow. Then, with the baby on my hip, I make a one-handed cup of coffee, and try to sip it while preventing the baby from batting it out of my hand. So begins my day. Sadly, the baby doesn't understand the concept of Saturday or Sunday morning, let alone the respect they so rightfully deserve, so this little morning show runs seven days a week.
"Before", I would read the Sunday paper. Everything. All of it. The news, the business section, real estate, sports (well, maybe only during football season.
Go Broncos! ). Even that little "
Parade" magazine, which happens to include one of my favorite articles of all time, "Ask Marilyn®". I always wanted to see if I could figure out the stumper of a brain teaser she would include each week. If I did, it somehow made my weekend that much sweeter. (Want a taste? Try this one: "What change can be made to each of these words to produce new words: adds, ants, inks, ohms, sheer, star?")*
"After", I try to remember to salvage the advertising innards of the paper sometime between the time I've finished scrubbing the maple syrup off of the breakfast table, and sometime before my Dear Husband (DH) scatters the components of paper throughout the kitchen and family room like New Year's Eve confettii. My perusing of the Sunday paper has now become a harried snatch-and-grab operation in search of coupons for diapers, baby wipes, and apple juice. As for Marilyn, I hope she never asks me what becomes of her article most weekends in our house. It just happens that "Parade" magazine is approximately the same dimensions of the bottom of my daughter's hampster cage.
And most dramatically, and more to the point of why I'm babbling here in the first place; "Before", I was a career woman. I went to college, got an engineering degree from Cal Poly in San Luis Obispo, California, and spent over 12 years in the corporate world. I did everything from product development, to strategic planning, sales and marketing, and even managed a multi-million dollar business segment for a corporation that consistantly sits in the top ten of the
Fortune 500. I mean, I did stuff! I'm not saying I did anything exceptional, anything more than everyone else that's out there in the corporate world... I'm just saying that Before Children, I knew how to do a lot of stuff, and people actually
paid me to apply what I knew to their business.
Now, "After", motherhood is my career. I'm a full-time, stay-at-home mom. My days start early, and they go late. There are no lunch hours, no afternoon trips to Starbucks before the staff meeting, no expense reports or business trips. No raises, no titles, no private offices... no privacy for that matter. It's a whole different world. But as tiring and challenging as it often is, I've also never in my life woken up each morning (or been woken up), more excited and happy to "go to work". Even during the best days of the jobs that I loved, I never enjoyed myself, and my life, as much as I do now... being able to spend every day with my children and family.
But I think it's come at a price. I begun to notice over the last couple years, that some of my brian cells seem to be suffering from lack of exercise. It's not to say that I haven't learned anything new! My gosh, just off the top of my head I can: list the names and distinguishing characteristics of all of The Wiggles (not to mention all of their songs); identify and name all the engines of Thomas & Friends by paint color and number designation; effectively argue the pros and cons of both sides of the vicious Diaper Genie vs. Diaper Champ debate; and in 30 minutes or less, can whip together no less than 25 different recipes using little more than a cup of brown rice and a can of cream of mushroom soup. Truly, if they ever have a tournament for Trivial Pursuit -- The Mother's Edition, I would be hard to beat!
But at the same time, I can't seem to complete a sentence anymore without having to substitute at least one or two words with "what-cha-ma-call-it" or "thing-a-ma-jig". More and more often I find myself running upstairs to grab something, and then standing in the middle of the room with no memory as to what it was I was looking for. When I'm out with friends, if the subject turns to away from babies, toys, or potty training... I realize I don't have much to add. And it seems the only books, movies, or shows I've seen lately all star cartoon characters. And although I've memorized all the things in the great green room, and I know the way to Sesame Street... I can tell my brain is starting to turn to mush around the edges.
So in an effort to blow the dust off my brain cells a bit, I decided to review some of the subjects I took while I was in college. I'm hoping it will reawaken some of the sparks in the ol' gray matter! But this time, instead of looking at things from the perspective of an engineer, I'm going to look at them from the perspective of a mom. Because science is a universal language, and it can be observed and applied in all walks of life... including Motherhood.
So here you'll find a daily review of various scientific principles, explained in a way all mothers can relate to... as well as some creative ways it can be applied and observed in a mother's daily life. I can't promise that I won't also go off on some random tangent in the process... after all, I don't think mush brain is entirely reversible. But hey, something that gets the wheels turning, no matter which direction, is never a bad thing.
Enjoy!
*Answer: Replace each letter with the next letter in alphabetical order, and each word becomes a new word. (Example: adds = beet.)